Fairy Tales, Folk Tales & Fables

I love tales! 

I wasn't always able to say this. I had to go through some weird tales and some questioning of certain fairy tale endings, but I am beginning to see their importance. In fact, I've been on a Tales kick for the last few months. We've been reading folk tales from all over the world: various countries, religions, etc. There is so much good in them. some are fantastical, some wise, some educational, etc. Never-ending enjoyment.

Here are the types: 

MYTH - Myths are legendary stories that ancient people created to explain the mysteries of life, death, the beginning of the world, and natural powers. They were not able to understand these mysteries, so they wove stories on the basis of their imagination. Since myths are imaginary stories, they have imaginary characters in them like dragons, monsters, fairies, giants, and gods. All these characters had magical powers and were much more powerful than human beings. Different types of myths were woven about the same thing in different parts of the world. These very myths gave rise to different religions in various parts of the world.

SAGA - The word "saga" was originally used for any story of heroic deeds of a medieval Norwegian hero. Gradually, it came to mean a long eventful narrative about a family, social group, or dynasty with several chapters, cantos or even volumes. A saga has several legends of heroes added to it. These heroes may be real or half-real and half-imaginary, but on the whole, the frame work of the main story is based on truth. An epic is a saga in poetry form, while a saga is in prose.

FABLE - A fable is a short tale which involves animals as essential characters in it and carries a moral for the readers. The animals are described to be talking to people or to one another wisely, foolishly, cunningly, and in ways human beings do. Aesop's Fables are a very good example. The lessons imparted by fables are very useful and practicable. They can impart guidance in most difficult situations and lead one out of them. Fables are a good source of wisdom, tact, and other noble means. Thus they go a long way to put one onto the road to success and well-being if their morals are translated into daily life. Fables should not be read for amusement only, but for learning to be a successful person as well.

FOLK-TALE - Folk-tales are light imaginary stories handed down orally from generation to generation. They are popular because they describe the hopes and fears of common people in a natural fanciful way. Since, human hopes and fears are the same everywhere, we can find similar folk-tales in distantly apart countries. There may be slight differences in the versions of these similar folk-tales, but their theme is almost the same. Almost every social group has its own folk-lore traditions and beliefs. A social group's folk-tales are based on these traditions and beliefs, therefore, folk-tales are very near to day-to-day life. The element of fancy and imagination gives them color and interest thus, making them very fascinating.

FAIRY-TALE - Fairy-tales are magical stories about fairies. A fairy is a tiny imaginary being with supernatural powers. Fairies are believed to be very beautiful and delicate. They help people when in a good mood, but they may harm evil people using their supernatural powers when they are angry. Fairies are believed to have wings for flying and live in their own land called, "Fairyland." This land is ruled by the fairy queen who has a large magnificent palace. Fairyland is considered to be a land of lakes, lush green meadows, bright flowers, and fruit trees. Children enjoy fairy-tales very much because of the enchantment and magical power such stories hold.

Though tales differ, I will share what I like about the tales I choose to read...

First, kids need imagination. In a world where things are increasingly confined to logic and result, it's nice to create a warm, cozy imaginative escape for our children. I cherish the ages of 0-7 for my kids to experience all the "right-brain" imaginative learning/play/experience they can get...because it all goes downhill from there. They will get logic and "real world" understanding after that, but I choose to innundate my child with nature, animals and creation.

Second, the simplicity. Kids get so bombarded in our busy world of stuff (fluff). So a simple story is great. But they are simply powerful too when they can convey a deep principle or understanding at the same time--so not just empty fluff).

Third, they generally filled with nature and animals. We have so much stuff. My kids had books about trucks and robots and all sorts of "things," but I want my children to really get a deep connection with and understanding of the basic elements of life. I feel once children can feel the beauty of a pure God-given world, then they will be ready to dive into other "stuff." It's empowering to my children to be able to know what things are made of because he's use to wood, rocks and metal; instead of thinking everything comes from a store and is made of something they can't identify. And I feel God set-up this earth with what we need to teach us, so I want to start there with my children.

Fourth, parables are the best teacher. Another great thing about animals, like in fables, is that kids can relate to the animal, without knowing they are relating, because the animal is personified with human characteristics. This is fantasy, but true emaotional and intellectual patterns we go through. The child is then bridging a false and yet real experience without the danger or threat of a direct parallel. These are metaphors and parables...the best way in which to learn.

Fifth, they are written with a pattern of discovery and problem-solving, coming full-circle in the end. Repetition is great for children (and adults). We tend to need to hear or experience something three times before it "sinks" in. Kids find security in that pattern. They also find strength and confidence in both going through ups and downs through a story and then ending out on top, so to speak. This confidence and seeing of patterns helps them develop their problem solving or keeps them on their toes in guessing what will happen next.

Sixth, most are based in a value or moral. This goes back to the simplicity. A teacher gets knowledge and facts out. A good teacher can deliver these facts well. A great teacher can teach in such a simple, yet deep way that those facts translate to true understanding in the hearer. Finding a good tale is finding a great teacher. Choosing to share that tale in a valuable way is being a great teacher.

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By the way...in our society, many children grow out of fairy tales somewhat (some faster than others), once they hit the logic stage/8 years old (which is probably why I never really "got them"...and that's the same way with Dr. Seuss for me. Never cared from him, until this recent new journey of exploration into the beautiful world of "right brain"/imaginitive learning. This world is where 0-7 year olds live and flourish. Children get to be carefree and responsibility free because they need it. They will change the world if they grow up feeling imaginative and that "the sky is the limit." Let's fuel their entrepreneurial spirit with tales--not limit them.)

Here are some Resources for to start with: (you want the traditional tales--rich with language and real meaning, not modern recreations that dumb things down.)

• Wisdom Tales (collected from all over the world, categorized by continent or religion)
• Earth Tales (world myths about creation and nature)
• Tales with Tails (world tales and myths involving nature and animals, with info on various animals and lots of fun activities. Great for Earth Day stuff.)
• Can You Guess My Name? (gives three versions (different countries) of each of a few popular tales, like "three Little Pigs" and such)
• Tangram Tales
• Aesops Fables
• Fairy Tales: Hans Christian Anderson & Brother's Grimm

FAIRY TALES (by age)

Three and Four Year Olds

Any fairy tale with repetitive elements and a very simple story line

·         Sweet Porridge (Grimm 103)

·         Goldilocks and the Three Bears

·         Little Louse and Little Flea (Spindrift, Let Us Form A Ring)

·         The Giant Turnip (Russian)

·         The Mitten (Russian)

·         The Gingerbread Man

·         The Bun (cannot remember where The Bun originated for sure, I believe Russia)

·         The Johnny Cake (English)

·         The Hungry Cat (Plays for Puppets)

·         The Old Woman and Her Pig (English)

·         The Cat and the Mouse (English)

·         Little Red Hen

·         The City Mouse and The Country Mouse

Four and Five Year Olds

·         The Three Billy Goats Gruff

·         The Three Little Pigs

·         The Pancake Mill (Let Us Form A Ring)

·         Mashenka and the Bear (Russian, Spindrift)

·         The Elves (Grimm 39)

Five and Six Year Olds

·         Star Money (Grimm 153)

·         The Frog Prince (Grimm 1)

·         Mother Holle (Grimm 24)

·         Little Red Cap (Grimm 25)

·         The Bremen Town Musicians (Grimm 27)

·         The Spindle, Shuttle and the Needle (Grimm 188)

·         The Hut in the Forest (Grimm 169)

·         The Queen Bee (Grimm 62)

·         The Seven Ravens (Grimm 25) – I didn’t tell this one until first grade

·         Snow White and Rose Red (Grimm 161)

·         The Princess in the Flaming Castle (Let Us Form A Ring)

·         Twiggy (Let Us Form A Ring)

·         The Donkey (Grimm 144)

·         Lazy Jack (English)

·         Tom-Tit-Tot (English)

·         Puss in Boots, sometimes also called The Master Cat

The Power of Story-Telling

Storytelling is a talent.
Yes, and one that I never desired or thought I had. I was always one of those that wished people would tell stories, but never had one readily available to share. And even if I could think of one, I never knew how to share it with energy and imaginative detail.

There is a storyteller within us all.
And it's been so fun discovering that within myself. I still haven't gotten to the oober creative detail level, but I am getting more filled with energy and detail and snippets into those beautiful realms of imagination and discovery.

Story telling is a gradually learned talent.
Storytelling is built by many small steps of practice and experience. Its a willingness to let go of unknowns and others' judgments. That is liberating in and of itself. And it's a desire to share something of meaning for others. This is a true experience of connection.

For me, it started by reading by reading to my little boy. As I did so, I began to add more animation and character voices and sound effects. Actually, I've always enjoyed sound effects. For me, that was the easiest part! Then I started reading short fables or tales to my little boy. And we'd use some of his animals to recreate the story. This developed our ability to recall and sequence. Soon I didn't need a book. We'd use puppets to do the acting, so we didn't have to feel completely fooling in all the various ways of performance. Certain stories we felt super familiar with became ones we could act out completely. And then a love for theater and performance started emerging.


Our Little Boy Series....
While we were going through this process I started telling stories to my little boy at bedtime. All of them began and ended the same way..."Once there was a little boy in the forest..." and then "...and then he went to bed (happy, dreaming of his adventure he'd just enjoyed)." I'll start the story, but if I can't think of things, I just ask my son to fill in some details. This helps us both increase our story-telling abilities, problem solving skills and imagination.

And since they all begin the same way he find security and almost a deep friendship with the main character. I see my boy's eyes light up as he feels connected to this character and the things that happen to him. It's a great way for him to experience things through story so he can learn lessons without having to go through the real experience...or at least being better equipped when the real experiences happen.

I typically tell him holiday type stories during holidays to help Ethan see that other people do similar or different things than what he might do...to give him perspective or to help him feel anticipation. And the cool thing is that we are building a autonomous story/place/ etc. that we will can actually see and recall.

I've wanted to document some of it and draw a map of the places the Little Boy plays at and has his adventures, etc. I see it in my head now, but Ethan may see it differently. So I hope to keep telling stories and help Ethan one day journal pieces he wants to and create his own map.

I also end up tying in good morals and attributes of how the little boy should or shouldn't act. OR in how he treats his family. The Little Boy becomes a relate-able example for Ethan that is powerful for helping with behavioral issues.

Anyway...the possibilities are endless, but it's such a great way to bond with my son and I don't do it nearly enough these days. So this is a reminder to me to get back to it because I felt our relationship so much closer those weeks I focused on making time for him and for being willing to open my heart and mind to this precious unknown that is becoming less of an unknown the more I reach for it (though will always have some unknowns--which is how life is meant to be).


Why am I sharing all this...?
So...I've come to realize that I want more than books with and for my children. I want connection through stories. I want deep connection--that joins us together, that deepens our relating to nature and people, that deepens our imagination and love for creation--empowering us to do more of those things.

The Key is to start.
Start somewhere. Start small. It's helpful to start with something very simple and/or very familiar. You remember what you love. So share a story you love, but keep it simple. Kids are great to practice on, for this reason. They have no judgment when they are super little. They're just happy you're with them! So be with them and go on a simple story adventure hand in hand with your child.

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Here are a few notes and resources for exploring storytelling....

I liked the idea of the story-teller's triangle:

storyteller must be familiar (somehow) with both parts in order to connect them well

                         Story-teller

                                  |                                    

Story      ------------------------------   Audience

Nourishing Story Telling for Kids...

1. A Communal and Bonding Event (as siblings and parents gather together)
2. Transfers Commitment to Good Values (without lectures needed)
3. Gives Common Experiences and Victories (without needing own experiences to learn)
4. Using animals allows relate-ability, while still maintaining some realm of fantasy (so kids don't have to face "the world is not perfect"-view right in the face)

Fun Stories to start with... (click on them to get examples)

• Fingerplays (http://lilbumblebeeadventures.blogspot.com/2013/08/music-time-songs.html)
• These are great for so many reasons! They are short. They rhyme. They are generally about nature or animals. They are easy to remember. They don't involve props except your body...which actually empowers kids to be able to retell them easily too. And they just pure cute.

• Draw & Tell Stories/Cut and Tell Stories (These you draw or cut as you go until the end result is a picture that finishes the story. Did you know Hans Christen Andersen was known for the most intricate and impressive storytelling cuttings ever!)

• Tangram Tales (create tangram shapes/characters as you tell the story. love this book!)

• Simple Fairy Tales, Folk Tales or Fables

Earth Day 2015

This year for Earth Day I decided to team up with the local elementary school for an Earth Day activity. I got two second grade teachers to join in on my brown bag activity (one was a girl from my neighborhood that I know, because last year I tried to do this but didn't know any teachers...so it went nowhere. But this year it was nice having an "in").

Dick's Grocer supplied us with 100 brown Paper grocery bags and I took them into the school for kids to decorate about Earth day. Then I took them back to the grocery store to be handed out to customers with their groceries in them, for a nice community Earth Day event.

Before I passed out the brown paper bags I told an Earth Day Tale from Bali called "The Grumpy Gecko." This tale was about a gecko who wanted tiger to make the fireflies stop flashing all night. But the story went on to explain that the fireflies flashed to send on woodpecker's warning, who were passing on news about beetle, who was cleaning up after buffalo, who was helping after rain washed away the path, etc. It went to show that all the animals were working together and if the fireflies stopped then it would break that cycle and grumpy gecko wouldn't have mosquitoes to eat. Long story short. I got it from the Usborne Barefoot Book of Earth Tales. Cute book with great morals.

Firefly (butterfly pose)

woodpecker

Island: twisting and finding personal space

waterfall pose

beginning sun salutation: grateful for clean air

flower pose: a fun one

Anyway, after the story...sound effects and character voices and all, we did some memory/recall of sequence by doing some yoga poses based on the different characters and nature elements in the story. And at the end I added in Sun Salutation sequence but changed it to parts of a memory aid to help kids remember clean air, land, water and water animals, land animals and sky animals (to get back up).

Explaining the Story and recalling sequence
Nellie's little hand erasing. Ethan clinging to my leg

Ethan was correcting my telling of the story occasionally since he'd heard it four times

I had a great time, and took the kids with me to the school. The kids were shy, but had fun sitting with me and doing yoga with us all too. The teachers took some photos and said it was fun. So I think I'll probably do this each year with those same teachers, but probably even add more next year.

a few kids from Homeschool Art/Gym Co-op

We also did the Earth Tale in the Homeschool Co-op for Gym, but I told it there as we did the poses. And they did the paper bags for their art time. So fun. (In fact, it was a little funny when the other second grade teacher asked me if any of my kids were in their school and I responded..."no, we homeschool") Haha. I love bridging the community though and think it's great to get kids this fun stuff anywhere they are. Hopefully we can start a recycling club next year with an activity once a semester. Then gradually build to more frequent. I loved my recycle club I was in in fifth grade!

All in all we had a blast. And I reminded the kids that Earth day is every April on the 22nd (which is peace, peace...hand signs). The kids thought that was funny and an easy way to remember.

Martial Arts: Aikdo

Im sure most people have heard of karate and maybe jujitsu or taekwando. But have you ever heard of Aikido? Well...I've never been interested much in martial arts. That is I never thought I was until I heard about Aikido. It was developed by a Japanese man who studied many of the various martial art forms, fought in military and fought off many robbers and people during his life. Eventually he gained a greater desire to practice non-violence instead of violence and he sought greater wisdom and spirituality. It was this combination of experience and desire that helped him create what he calls Aikido. 

The practice of Aikido involves non-violence. One never attacks, but waits until someone attacks. When a blow is directed towards one, the receiver merely becomes one with the blow and thereby redirects the force away from self.  I really like this. It seems both efficient and polite. :)

Most Aikido dojos (training huts) have the word "kan" in the name, which means " hall of learning." The founder believed thoroughly that one must conquer body, mind and spirit and was frequently found studying all sorts of subjects to gain deep understanding in many areas. This helped him best see universal principles through which to approach life. He also spent many hours daily in nature, especially farming and hiking.

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Here are a few great principles/quotes I came across:

Aiki is the process of eliminating discord and enmity. Aikido is the discipline of perceiving the true nature of the cosmos. Enter right into the heart of things, make that your base, and open your own door to truth. Create a universe within, and remain in tune with the universe at large. 

Aiki, the art of harmonization, is the key. When one's ki is circulating freely, sickness does not arise. We want to cure the world of the sickness of violence, malcontent, and discord--this is the Path of Aiki. Let go of petty thought and selfish desires, and you can live in true freedom.

Aikido techniques must always be true (executed and effective), good (not to inflict injury), and beautiful (executed gracefully and with style and artistic sensitivity). It must also reflect the natural rhythm of the universe.

In Aikido there are no enemies. Real Aikido is the function of love. The Way of the Warrior is not to destroy and kill but to foster life, to continually create. Love is the divinity that can truly protect us.

Aikido must be practiced in a bright and joyful manner. The atmosphere in the dojo is typically bright, open and friendly, and the proper training generates light (wisdom), warmth (compassion), and energy (true strength).

We constantly need to purify our senses. Our sense organs allow us to function in this world, but as soon as they are disturbed we lose our bearings. This causes confusion and disorder In the world, and that is the worst sin of all. Continually polish your spirit, keep your senses fresh and bright, and you will bring light to this world.

First of all, you must put your own life in order. Then you must learn how to maintain ideal relations within your own family. After that, you must work to improve the conditions in your own country and harmoniously with the world at large. This is our duty as practitioners of Aikido.

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I love this picture and how the symbols represent great principles...(as described in caption)

The Power of Reading Aloud

I read a few books and wanted to capture my notes...

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In The Read-Aloud Handbook, by Jim Trelease, he mentions a formular to help children desire to read. By noticing a child's motivation behind reading and by limiting the difficulty of effort in doing so you can better encourage (maximize frequency) reading.


Reward
---------     =  Frequency
Effort


Reading Rewards

• escape
• information
• prestige or honors (grades, etc.)

Reading Effort (hindrances)

• distractions
• lack of time
• availability
• disability
• negative perceptions

We can't get better at reading if we aren't listening well. And we won't write well if we aren't speaking or reading well. It is a process. I like thinking in terms of this process and the following chart to better understand...

1. Listen
2. Speak
3. Read
4. Write

Understanding this should clarify our need for us not to rush our kids into writing. Little kids are still learning language and how to listen and speak. They shouldn't need to master writing until they are more comfortable with the first parts in this process. When that happens the other later pieces will more naturally occur and most likely even faster.

Also, writing implies judgment. We don't want kids to feel judgment from ages 0-7. Instead we want them to feel free to express themselves as they like without fear of doing something right or wrong. When kids have to write things down and capture their thoughts their is pressure and stress. Let's first let kids express themselves. Writing should come more at the stage of logic, after age 7.

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Even more powerful than reading is storytelling....read my post about that. I consider it the next step beyond reading.

Emergency Preparedness: Power of 3 Plan

Advent: Nativity & Love Languages

This year I decided for our advent weeks before Christmas we would focus as a family on the real meaning of Christmas: Love. (that's why baby Jesus is so important)

"For God so loved the world that he gave his Only Begotten Son; that whosoever believeth in Him should not perish, but have everlasting life." 

John 3:16

So each week was a focus on a part of the Nativity scene--those who were there to celebrate Christ's birth. And each character emphasizes a different way we can show our love. So I've put a list of things we can do to reinforce and celebrate each focus during the week. It starts four Sunday's before Christmas and then the fifth is Christmas (not a full week).

1. Angels

Love Language: Words (of Affirmation) --songs of inspiration

Songs: Angels We Have Heard on High

Hark the Herald Angel Sing

Books: The Littlest Angel, The Christmas Angel, How the Grinch Stole Christmas (singing)

Activity: Sing carols together (can be a family recital), write notes or thank you cards

*Coloring Page & Ornament

2. Shepherds

Love Language: Time

Songs: While Shepherd Watched Their Flocks

Far Far Away on Judea’s Plain

The First Noel

Books: The Crippled Lamb, 

Activity: make snow flakes, watch Christmas movie, see neighborhood Christmas lights

*Coloring Page & Ornament

3. Wise Men

Love Language: Giving (service and gifts)

Songs: With Wondering Awe

            We Three Kings

Books: Mr. Finnegan's Giving Chest, Three Wise Men, The Drummer Boy, Jacob's Gift

Activity: Give one toy away (and gift/goal to Jesus), Daily secret service (star with poem) and neighbor treats and caroling (make/deliver)

*Coloring Page & Ornament

4. Mary & Joseph

Love Language: Physical Affection

Songs: It Came Upon a Midnight Clear

            Once in Royal David’s City

            Silent Night

Books: The Nativity (story book form/coloring pages)

Activity: Family Massages, Cuddle by Fire (sing/games), Temple Square Walk (hold hands)

*Coloring Page & Ornament

5. Baby Jesus--Christmas!

Love Language: All –true Charity

Songs: Joy to the World

            Away in a Manger

O Come All Ye Faithful

Books: The Nativity Story

Activity: Talk about Symbols of Christmas (types/shadows)

*Coloring Page & Ornament

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I will keep updating as I add more...

Distraction: A Parent's Best Friend?

Distraction. A Good thing?

For many of us that like to attempt multi-tasking everything and running around trying to do too much, distraction may not be a good thing. We need to prioritize and know what is most important so we can stay on track doing what matters most and not trying to keep up with everything someone else thinks we should be doing.

And yet, I stick with my title of this post. Why?

My husband actually mentioned this tonight while struggling to feed our kids. And I thought..."that's my next post." So let's look at "distraction" from another perspective....

• Dilemna: My two-year old child is trying to climb up the hutch in the kitchen because she sees her big brother on top (put there by Dad for fun---that's another story). Little girl can't get up: throwing tantrum. (I'm thinking: "Not safe...no way are you getting up there girl! Not going to happen.)
• Distraction: "Nellie want to wrestle/dance with Dad?" --Boom! and she's off to the living room, delighted with a new quest she can conquer!

• Dilemna: My four year old will not eat his dinner and he's too tired to focus on eating (don't even get me started...bane of my existence!). (I'm thinking: "You will eat what I made you. Dang it. It's not moldy. Won't make you sick. So please...just eat it! Now.")
• Distraction: "You're growing dragon scales! Woah!" Those peas must be making you turn into a dragon! Crazy!" *giggles from said four year old. Followed by serious pea-popping and more giggles. "Am I growing wings?"*

These are the moments we face daily: Struggles and discipline? Or trips of fantasy and adventure into a world of your/their own creation? Excitement, enthusiasm and joy fill their little minds....

So, I admit, I feel extremely left-brained at times; but I have to say that homeschooling is sure good at making me step out of my left-brained world and more fully accept a creative and fun approach to life and learning with my kids. I still yell and get annoyed more than I should at kids' imperfections, but I'm getting better at understanding their limits (mentally especially). Kids need things simple and direct, without baggage and blame. They need rules, but not guilt. They feel consequences...without too much explanation. We as moms are guides: placing good examples in their path and helping them see true principles and feel the beauty and meaning of them in their own time and way. The children will draw their own conclusions when they are ready.

So, one thing to help provide our kids with distractions is awareness: What does your child love? What do they need? How do they feel? Do they feel loved? (Are we paying attention to our kids on a deeper level? Are we holding them and telling them we love them? Do they feel they are special and know their real worth?)

Love and gratitude are the two most important things in the world (if you haven't heard of the rice experiement, try it out. Love and gratitude are powerful words/feelings). I view them as being first, that which is given/received; followed by second, the mirroring of that which was given/received. So combined, love and gratitude come full-circle into a complete fullness of feeling. If we are without one, most likely we aren't experiencing either to the full extent possible.

That said; one thing I detest is whining. Can't stand it. Will not tolerate it in my house. And Ethan knows it. Drives me up the wall! I'm serious. I don't know why my whine-tolerance levels are completely whack; but I hate, hate, hate whining with a passion (can you tell?).

So, Ethan knows that whining will not get him anything but an angry mom. And this angry mom yells when pushed to "strike three." (which I'm working on) He also knows that whining is not being grateful. And being grateful is a huge focus at our house! (I'm still meaning to make a wall-hanging on wood that says something about love and gratitude...but my crafty-intelligence hasn't completely caught up with that thought yet. Alas.)

I try to teach principles, and then discipline according to such rules; but sometimes kids just need distraction if they aren't "getting it." So when we come across whining in our day and principles/logic just aren't working, I will use distraction/creativity....

• Dilemna: "I want juice!" (I'm thinking: "No you can't drink sugar junk all day, you already hyper monster!"
• Distraction: "This magic bottle is a laughing potion. It starts with a smile and gets bigger and bigger until..." *then giggles start and we sit and eat lunch together talking about potions and Elsa in Frozen or something (everything goes back to that movie right now)."

So, why am I rambling about this? Well, it has been very handy for my own kids and also helped me be more patient with others' kids who may be low on the gratitude spectrum. And it's sure better for me too, when I'm trying to figure out how best to cope with annoying and imperfect little behaviors. Afterall, I am a mom of soon-to-be three. So I better learn coping mechanisms for my own sanity. And I think an adventure-beyond-reality is a good way to go for the kid in all of us. I need to laugh things off (like a pressure cooker with a release valve. Don't let it stick too tight--in reality and explanations--but let a little imagination keep the valve a-bouncin'. Then pressure and stress can dissipate).

(btw....I write all these posts because I need them for myself. So if anyone is getting value from them--fabulous!. If not...I don't really care, because they really are for me anyway. :) So don't judge me too harshly for them. They are mine. And I'm just a mom trying to get my thoughts and feelings out for my own sanity. And lucky you (or unlucky) are privy to the intricate workings of my mind.